Isn’t it an amazing feeling when you meet someone incredibly cute and there are butterflies in your stomach? All you want to do is be in their presence all the time and yet you could almost hide under your chair every time he passes by. Even the mention of his name makes you feel all woozy. You get this amazing rush of excitement and blush every time you see him. You are probably also dreaming about the perfect love story that you will have. But then comes the scary realization that you cannot just stare at him until he falls in love! You remember all those flirting fiascoes that you have been solely responsible for, and recoil in horror. So, if flirting successfully is not one of your strong traits, keep reading because handy guide will save you a lot of embarrassment when you finally muster up the courage to step up.
Maintain eye contact
Maintain eye contact when you talk to him. Not only does it make you appear super confident, it also makes it easier to captivate his interest. Moreover evading eye contact looks shady and gives one the appearance of lack of interest. Let him get lost in the depth of your eyes. Looking into his eyes will also let you assess his interest in you. It is said that eyes are the window to the soul, so use that window, girl, to make his heart your home.
While talking to him, don’t fiddle with your phone or get distracted by something around you. Although it is not uncommon of people to fidget with their phone when they are nervous, it just ends up giving the wrong signal to the person it front of you. It is not only utterly disrespectful but also makes you look like you are approaching him half-heartedly. Make sure you participate and react to show your involvement. Always be honest but ensure that you are not boring him with uninteresting stories or giving away too much information, thereby creeping him out. If he is going on and on about something that holds no interest for you, show some polite involvement but don’t be afraid to change topics. Being able to hold an intelligent and interesting conversation is always appreciated. Pay attention to the little details which can give out a lot about his character.
Don’t be afraid to initiate conversation
If you like him, just walk up to him and say hello. Although you can always make up some excuse to talk to him, you don’t really need one. It is okay to be the first one to initiate a conversation. But before you actually start talking, always make sure that you have some handy conversation topics in your mind so that you can keep the conversation going. If you are prone to stage frights, you can practice conversing with a friend so that you do not freeze when the big moment comes.
Dress for the part
Although your clothes don’t really matter, but they give you an extra confidence when you feel pretty enough. Wear clothes and colours that accentuate your body and hide your flaws. Even though he might not really notice your flaws and nor that it would matter if he does, but you would not be comfortable in something you don’t feel attractive in. This would result in a lack of confidence and therefore make you look awkward. Remember, the first impression is the most important, therefore, ensure that you are dressed appropriately for your first impression. Dating experts recommend that you were dangling earrings as they draw attention to the curves of your neck.
Use appropriate body language
Body language is extremely important as one wrong gesture can give out a terribly bad signal, which can ruin all your efforts. Don’t keep looking around when you are talking to him. It appears like you do not like or trust him and hence you are plotting your escape route. Keeping your arms crossed gives off the air of being unapproachable. On the other hand, getting too close gives off a signal that you are available. If you keep fidgeting or playing with your fingers, it makes you look anxious. While casually playing with your hair or jewellery is considered sexy, make sure you don’t end up overdoing it and looking like a nervous wreck. Similarly, you can notice his body language to check his interest in you.
It is incredibly sexy when you lean closer to him, just enough to arouse his interest. Don’t be afraid to break the barrier of touch. But don’t overdo it as it kills the element of mystery and borders on sleazy. Always spray some perfume at the back of your neck so that he can get a whiff of the irresistible fragrance when you lean in.
However nervous you are, make sure that you do not forget to smile. It makes you look more approachable and encourages him to ask you out! A lovely smile can be the best accessory for that pretty face of yours. Don’t be afraid to laugh when he cracks a joke. Make some effort to make him laugh as well. Laughter is a great bonding tool and it will go a long way in life. Don’t forget to compliment him because who doesn’t like being praised!
Take the first step
You do not have to wait for a guy to take the first step. If he isn’t asking you out yet, don’t be afraid to ask him out. Men find it incredibly sexy when a woman takes the lead. Confidence is attractive and make sure you ooze enough of it and soon you will see him swoon over you. Make a spontaneous plan even if you are not confident enough to formally ask him out on a date. For example, tell him that you are craving for a particular food and you would love it if he can dash for a bit to grab it with you. This way, you ask him out without being explicit.
Don’t be desperate
There is nothing more off putting than someone being too keen. Don’t keep texting, calling all the time. This reeks of desperation and makes you appear super annoying. Make sure you refrain from checking out, reacting or commenting on his pictures and posts on social media. This would instantly creep him out and make him run for the hills.
Subtlety and mystery are the keys to flirting with someone without coming on to them overtly. Be yourself and don’t fake it to look cool.