How to Find Love in 2017
People often complain that our hectic life has not left us with much time or scope for love these days. Love is, indeed, an elusive fairy. One must be at the right place and right time to meet the right person. Even when you find the right one, there are so many things that need to be just right for the happily ever after you have always been dreaming of. But the moment he looks into your eyes, you know that all the effort was totally worth it. Here are some of our tips in decoding the where and how of finding love in this age.
Bars and Nightclubs
Although bars and nightclubs have traditionally been a place to meet and interact with the opposite sex, they are still very popular, especially among extroverts. You can meet a complete stranger and hence start with a blank slate. It is an incredibly exciting prospect to start something with a complete stranger. The excitement of getting to know a person from scratch is something out of the world. With time a complete stranger starts getting closer and closer till you share the most intimate details with him.
At a bar or a nightclub the biggest challenge is starting a conversation. Don’t be afraid to start if he hasn’t taken the first step. Keep it simple. Just walk up to him and start with a hello or a compliment on something about him that he noticed.
Workplace or school
Have you always dreamt of falling in love with someone from school or work and living happily ever after? Well, you are not alone! Every day, everywhere someone or the other is falling hopefully in love with a cute classmate or colleague. Sometimes it’s a mutual attraction which leads to a relationship, sometimes it remains as sweet crush to daydream about.
Remember that this is a precarious situation because if things do not work out the way you thought, you will still have to face the person every day. So, before approaching, always make sure that you are in the same place. You also need to have a talk about your future interactions in case the relationship does not work out.
Clubs for people with similar tastes
Book clubs, movie clubs etc. are gaining rapid popularity as forums to meet potential dates. The biggest advantage in these situations is that although the person is a complete stranger, you always know a little something about him, one little thread that binds you two together. It gives you something common to talk about, even if you are not bold enough to approach.
With someone sharing the same interest in a certain thing, you can always use the common thread as the ice breaker. Start an exciting conversation and you can spend hours sharing sweet nothings with him.
You will be surprised to know how many people find love in various kinds of support groups. Be it a local Weight Watchers’ Club or a support group for people with certain illnesses, having an ailment or a condition in common acts as a huge bonding force between two people. They look up to each other for emotional support and strength to overcome their challenges and often fall head over heels in love with each other. The most important issue one should watch out for, in this case is that if one person starts deteriorating, which can bring the other person down too, if he or she lacks the strength to pull both of them out of it. But it can also lead to the blooming of a loving relationship where both push each other up constantly, thereby helping both overcome their struggles much faster. Over the last decade there has been a sharp rise in people finding someone special in their support groups.
Dating in a support group can be a very fragile situation, given the emotional ordeal that people are going through. Everyone has a different story and you have to be sensitive about their needs. If you have fancied a guy from a support group you both attend, make sure you approach him with care. It is important to know if both of you are
Dating sites like Tinder, OkCupid etc. are rapidly growing in popularity among the younger tech savvy crowd. The biggest advantage of this is that you know a lot about a person before starting any interaction with him. You also have a basic idea about his tastes, his compatibility with you and many other things which can be extremely useful, especially if you are a shy person.
The most important thing to remember about dating profiles is to keep it short, honest and interesting. It is a blessing for introverts as you do not have to actually meet and talk to a complete stranger. You get to interact and connect before meeting.
Before you go into dating, there are certain things that you need to take care of. Unless you are sorted in your own self, there are higher chances of a relationship failing. Here are some important tips you should keep in mind.
Know yourself: Before you choose to jump into dating, take some time to know yourself. It is important to know who you are so that you can figure out what you want from the other person. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses is crucial as it gives you an idea about what to improve on. Therefore, your chances of succeeding in a relationship are higher.
Be confident: Confidence is the key to success in finding the right person. If you cannot like yourself enough, how can you expect a guy to like you?
Be open to new things: With the internet the whole world has come closer and diversity is more common. When you start dating someone you might come across certain things about him or his life which are very different from what you are used to. Be open to new things and ideas. Think twice before judging someone for being different.
Break the gender roles: It is okay to take the first steps in a relationship. The twenty first century is rapidly doing away with conventional gender roles and it is time you join in too. Men like to be surprised and pampered too.
Stay in touch: The biggest cause of relationships breaking is the lack of communication. These days with the advent of a millions ways to stay connected, make sure you stay in touch.
The digital revolution has successfully brought people closer and has opened various paths for people to meet and interact. So, open your heart and mind and love is just a glance away!