How To Make Yourself Irresistible & Make Your Ex-Boyfriend Want You Back
So you have just had your heart broken by the man who seemed like your happily ever after? Nothing feels right and you are at the end of you wit, but don’t despair, instead hold on tight because there is light at the end of the tunnel. What you are going through might just be a kink in the way and hence with a bit of effort in the right direction, he can be yours!
If the man who was supposed to be ‘the one’ has broken your heart and but you know for sure, that you want him back. Just because he is the one who broke up, does not really mean the relationship cannot be salvaged. So, if you know that you want him, go ahead and win him back with these little tips.
Keep The Communication Channel Open
If you are trying to get back together with your ex, remember that communication is of crucial importance. Rightly has Rudyard Kipling said, “Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.” A lot can be achieved, simply by keeping a communication channel open between the two of you. If you did not end on amiable terms, take the help of your common friends to ensure that communication and the connection is not lost. It is of utmost importance to ensure that your communication does not involve you begging, pleading, crying or fighting. Keep it light, simple, meaningful and smart. Make him crave for your company and you can do that simply with the help of a healthy communication. This way he will start associating you with happy memories and it will influence him to want you back. The better your communication get, the higher your chances are of getting back together.
Take A Hard Look At Yourself
It is time to evaluate the circumstances that led to the relationship to end. Although it is painful and difficult, it is time to look at the whole matter objectively and if possible, from a detached point of view. If you can look at the situation from a neutral point of view, you might find certain faults or situations which can be rectified or manipulated to eliminate the cause of the breakup. If he has mentioned a particular thing about you that was off putting to him, try to do something about that to ensure that the same problem does not arise when you get back with him. Moreover, he will be impressed when he sees that you have made a conscious effort.
Make Yourself Irresistible
Looking good is an age-old trick to dealing with a breakup, whether you are trying to get your ex back or get back at your ex. The best thing to do after a breakup is to go for a makeover. Who doesn’t like looking better? So, don’t sit around, moping with a tub of ice cream and Netflix. Instead, go shopping and get some cute clothes or shoes or go for a cute haircut and marvel at the new changes. Don’t listen to the haters and shamelessly devote yourself to looking better because that will not only intrigue his interest in you but will also make you feel much better. This whole new avatar of yours will make you irresistible and he will soon be craving for you again. He will invariably be floored by your new style and regret dumping you!
Confidence and independence are sexy
Make him question his decision by exhibiting your strength and independence. This might feel like the end of the world but the moment you let him know how weak and devastated you are, he gets on top of the game. So, come what may, do not give the ball in his court by exposing your vulnerability. Although it is a very understated fact, go out, pamper yourself and have fun and above all, make sure that it reaches his ears that you are living a happy life even without him around. When you start living your life on your own terms, he will invariably envy your independence and wonder why you are not a wreck yet. He will start questioning himself if he is the one who pulled you back and hence is the loser in the relationship? This brings back the power in your hands and once that happens he will begin to doubt his own decision.
Say No To Social Media Drama
There is nothing more off putting than seeing your ex post sad quotes or sob stories on Facebook, trying to get sympathy. So, stop filling the social media with the sad details of your heartbreak because nobody really cares! Under no circumstances should you fight with him or try to get his sympathy or even revenge on social media. This will effectively destroy any chance you ever had of getting him back. This just makes you look petty, clingy and convinces him that he did a right thing by dumping you. Instead use the social media to successfully convey it to him how well you are doing. Men cannot resist the appeal of a woman who is poised and calm. Give it a bit of time and he will realise what a gem you are.
Turn Up That Charm
A number of girls mess up big time by trying to flirt with or date a guy just to make her ex jealous. The biggest problem with that is, it becomes extremely apparent and makes you look desperate. Instead of that, it is better to subtle and mysterious. Flirting in an obvious manner will only make a fool of you because he will immediately see though your trick. Don’t be in a rush to introduce another guy as your boyfriend, simply to make your ex jealous. Instead, keep the suspense alive with subtle flirting which doesn’t quite give out what is going on. If there is one thing that makes you tantalizing, it is your mysterious sexy appeal. Use it pique his interest and it will go a long way.
Getting back with your ex can be a tricky scenario. It is not easy to win back someone who has dumped you. But it is possible to achieve that with a bit of smartness and care. This is a precarious situation and one wrong step can completely ruin any chances of you getting back together, closing the door forever. So, remember to keep yourself composed and deal with the whole situation with grace. Don’t let him see that you are heartbroken because that gives him complete power over you. Most importantly, when he finally comes back to you, don’t give in easily. Make him work for the prize.